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Posts Tagged ‘life’

Defining your own job.

Friday, February 24th, 2012
Image: Master isolated images / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image: Master isolated images / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

When most people look for work they pick from the menu of jobs that are already on offer and enter a “career” based around already established roles.

Another way is to write the menu for yourself, and develop a meal that’s never been tasted before. It’s a harder job, because you’ve only got your intuitions guiding you, and the relationships you have in place with others supporting those directions that you want to move it.

However, I reckon that ultimately it’s more rewarding, as you get to define your own role and identity, instead of living your life through roles defined by others. At the end of the day you get to say “I lived my own life”.

Seeing things again, as they really are.

Monday, January 9th, 2012

The moon has always been a flat disc, invariably waxing and waning through the illustrations in the story books of my youth. And, so as I grew up, that’s how I saw it – up in the sky, a mixture of bright light and silhouette, mysterious but unquestionably there.

I’m not sure when I became aware that the moon was a ball, in strange oscillation around our home planet. I think that that was from an early age too, when for me the solar system was first full of planets and lumps of rocks. But all I saw when I looked up as a child was the stars and a slice of the moon looking down on me in the night.

Suddenly, I remember when as a teenager it happened; the first time I looked at the moon and a voice in my head revealed in context, “that’s not a shape, that’s a volume!” And instantaneously, I became aware of the enormity of a massive orb encircling in the night sky. A thin slither of light highlighting a mostly dark, invisible globe, hiding in plain sight. The surprise of it still lives me with today, how something so old and familiar can suddenly become new and mysterious again.

Today as dusk threatens to break, I see my friend the moon again. This time it has a companion, a small bright star to keep it company; the only star in the sky. As a child I saw all points of light as stars, but this one is Jupiter; our humble moon and a majestic planet, owning the sky. Only now am I becoming aware that I have been looking at the planets all along, not all stars are stars, and what I thought was hidden was hidden in plain sight.

It is easy to get lost in the familiar and well known, the well heeled grooves of life. We take our relationship to the things in the world for granted, and over time they become comfortable and unchanging; we never think to question them or notice whether our ideas about them need updating. The same is true of our relationships with each other. Most individuals that we meet are pigeonholed into some category or other, after a very short time in their presence, and it is then subsequently very rare for a relationship to change dramatically, and for two individuals to get to know each other again as if for the first time.

I am reminded as I recall this childhood incident that it’s even possible for the most fundamental things, to become more than they were. That, quite literally, as sure that I am of what is real and what it means, I must hold open the possibility that at some level my working assumptions are wrong, and some deeper truth and understanding could be revealed to me.

As I find myself entering this new year, full of awareness that not so far beneath the surface of what I take for granted are relationships and inspirations staring me in the face but not previously seen, and I ponder on which of these will reveal themselves first.

A few conversations….

Friday, September 30th, 2011

It’s not unusual for me to have extensive conversations with strangers. These days I’m spending a lot of time on trains, and have a lot of opportunity to partake of the company of many an interesting person.

In recent days, as well as the usual banter and jokes with the ticket staff, and random quips with fellow table sharers, I’ve managed to get myself embroiled in deep conversations about the design and influence of every day objects (with a marketing guru); the nature of the education in the school system, how it was constructed to prevent free thinking individuals and how the government is unable to redesign it in terms of its historical context (with a regional school coordinator); and the nature of consciousness, how it is affected by lack of sleep, and how everyday reality is shaped by random events and the attitude you have as you make your self present to it (mostly with myself.)

Growing a life worth living

Saturday, September 5th, 2009

I recently came across a comment in a wealth building community, it said “you can’t grow a company by cutting costs“. This makes sense. Making savings is a function of expenses. At best you could save everything you spend, but that isn’t going to increase your income, just the amount of money that you get to retain. If you are pulling in a fixed figure per month, then that is as much as you are earning. The most you can keep is that figure, and no more. If you want to grow, you have to do something else.

This thought has been fascinating me for the last month or so, as I’ve been engaging with the idea.

What I have come to realise is that there is an analogue between cutting costs and saving time. I have a list of things to do as long as anyone’s arm, and I find myself operating out of a ‘if I can just get my list done then I’ll have time for…’ mentality. The bills need paying, the bank statements need reconciling. The house need redecorating, as well as a patio laying and some damp proof course needing replacing. Then I have a bazillion books I need to read, some papers I need to write, and some friends I need to get back in touch with. That’s on top of the demands (and luxuries) that come from having a growing family, and a startup business. How on earth do I juggle all that? The seemingly obvious thought is that I need to just be more efficient, and save time, so that there is more time to fit it all in and get it all done. The obvious answer is that I just need to save time.

But, the wealth lesson suggests that that is wrong. You can’t grow a life by saving time, as you can’t grow wealthy by saving costs. This should be obvious, and it becomes so with a little thought experiment. I imagine that all of my tasks are done, and stay done – the bills pay themselves, the statements reconcile and file themselves automatically. The books get read, and the information is available to me anytime I want to use it. And so on. What is left? Just a whole lot of time, and nothing on my todo list that needs to be taken care of….. so what then? Ah, now there’s time to do the things that I really want to be doing. Interesting that, how the day to day tasks get in the way of the real things that are important, and prevent them from happening at all.

I’m reminded of another metaphor about things in life being compared to different sizes of stones, pebbles, gravel and sand, where size is importance. A life itself is compared to a finite sized container, in which all the things get put. The moral is that if you fill it with sand first, then there is no space to put the large things in – they just don’t fit. The suggestion is, start with the big things, and the small things will automatically fill the gaps between… but don’t whatever you do don’t fill it with the small things first, otherwise the important things wont fit.

I can’t grow and develop the things that are important to me just by servicing the distractions that arise as part of my lifestyle, and I can’t grow just by trying to be more efficient at those things. The more time I save, the more that can be done in that time, and the more things need to be done. The tasks always grow to fill the available space, most of it is just sand, there’s an infinite amount of it, and it can consume all spare resources.

We are born to grow, obviously. Little children get bigger, and as they do so, their life keeps changing as their comprehension and interests develop. However, it seems to me that most of us reach a particular point and then just stop. Life contains what it contains, we don’t physically grow anymore, new things don’t come along and change the focus away from the old things. We get in a groove (or rut), and nothing changes on its own… and when it does it’s usually a problem – an accident, a health issue, or being made unemployed. We are busy with the business of maintaining this lifestyle, doing all the tasks we have set ourselves, or doing things to distract us from those things.

How many of us are actually growing still? What of the things that are really important to us? How much of our time do we really dedicate to those things? Any? Or are we working out of the (false) assumption that we need to get the little stuff done first before we can really start pursuing our dreams?